Realising that you’ve become an actual adult can be hard to process. Being a teenager means relying on your parents to make all the hard decisions, paying the bills and keeping you from getting into trouble. We’ll all reach 20 and the majority of us will be completely and utterly lost.
I’ve tried to summarise the top 10 dos and don’ts of being a newly adult. Don’t look at them as rules but as guidelines to help you grow into a sophisticated young adult (if that’s what you’re aspiring to become).
- Don’t stress out because you don’t know what you want to do in life. It’s a universal state of mind (of young adults) and you’ll figure it out in time.
- Do things that make you happy. For the first time in your life YOU have the power!
- Don’t let a minor (or huge) setback get you of track. Trying is what gets us forward and there will always be a slight risk of failure. You can’t let that stop you.
- (Do) stand up for yourself and dare make a change if something’s bothering you. Quitting your job might not be optimal but if your work situation brings you down put your happiness in first hand.
- Don’t let other people’s opinions stop you from pursuing your dreams. If you want to be a puppy rescuer go be a puppy rescuer (my dream)!
- (Do) allow yourself to r e l a x. Do some yoga, have a Gossip Girl marathon or finish of a Ben&Jerry.
- Don’t fear mental breakdowns. They are part of getting by and a way of letting go of irritation/anger/sadness/frustration!
- (Do) hold on to your crazy side a while into your twenties. Drunk dancing on tables at 20 is way more acceptable than at 29.
- Don’t go all serious business because it will look good on your resume or so that you can brag about it when talking to your boyfriend’s parents. It’s ok to try things out just to realize that this wasn’t your thing.
- (Do) use your age as an advantage! Here in Sweden for example, you are legally allowed to buy alcohol (I do not encourage you to do so I’m just stating facts…). You’re also allowed into most clubs! Finally the years of being rejected and humiliated at the door are gone!!
I am going to leave you with a little story of mine, to read when life’s giving you a hard time. The keyword is mental breakdown…
I believe it was in ninth grade and I’d woken up in a lousy mood. As I am about to take my oatmeal out of the microwave I OBVIOUSLY drop it. Gooey oatmeal all over the freakin’ floor. I did the only reasonable thing there was to do. I sat down and cried. Somehow I managed to clean it all up just to find myself walking back up to bed, calling in sick and yeah, skipping school. Way to handle mental breakdowns, right?
Article by Hanna Hettman